Wednesday, November 21, 2012
What happened Here
Happy Thanksgiving.
While most of us are having a wonderful time cooking, eating and basically enjoying life, there are many in the throes of calamities. I am specifically thinking about the family whose thirteen year old daughter stabbed their two year old daughter to death. She was watching her three younger children while the father and mother was away.
Apparently the two year old told a neighbor, who came to check on them, where the thirteen year old had a boy hiding in the house. The neighbor removed the boy and left.
When the neighbor left, the thirteen year old sent her other three younger siblings (all under the age of five) upstairs while she stabbed the two year old. The thirty year old then carried her two year old sister outside to die. Reportedly, she cleaned up her sister's blood and changed her own bloody clothes, while family and friends looked for the two year old. The thirteen year old joined the search. Her father found his two year old daughter behind their town home.
What a mess!
I think about this family, and I can't help but wonder, didn't anybody see this girl was disturbed? Was she a willful girl, refusing to do what was asked of her? Did she resent having to take care of her younger siblings? Was she bullying her younger siblings, and everyone overlooked her mean behavior towards her younger siblings?
One thing we can all agree on is the parents hearts are heavy.
I wonder if the parents saw the problems? Were they busy, but every now and then they thought, something is not right here? Did they have a rule to ignore problems and pretend that problems don't exist?
The father stated that his younger child is in heaven now, and he has to make it to heaven if he wants to see her again. He stated that he tells his children that they have to make it to heaven for themselves. He was attempting to instill christian values. Finally, he said about the thirteen year old, "she's going to need a lot of help. She's my child too." This is the greatest testament to his christian experience, "She's my child too." What love, consideration and interest in this erring child.
I'm sure right about now he's feeling defeated, discouraged and at a loss. I'm sure he and his wife would like to turn back the hands of time, and be "there" more often. Say some things that they felt needed to be said, but was left unsaid. Encourage all of their children tolove each other, and care more for each other.
Right about now they may feel that their goals were skewed, just a little. I'm sure he and his wife are just going through the motions of life, and the guilt of being a poor parent is pressing in on them at this very moment. This guilt will continue to press in on them for years to come. Their church family will have to cover them, support them love, and nurture them back to health. A heavy blow has landed on this family.
This could be anybody's family. If you think you see problems address the poblems, don't let problems overwhelm, and take over the family. Pray for your children, watch the friends they hang around, and be aware of what's brewing under the roof of your home. Be nurturing and kind where you can.
Remember the hurting parents, and their families, pray for them, and when you can, reach out to them.
To read the story click here
While most of us are having a wonderful time cooking, eating and basically enjoying life, there are many in the throes of calamities. I am specifically thinking about the family whose thirteen year old daughter stabbed their two year old daughter to death. She was watching her three younger children while the father and mother was away.
Apparently the two year old told a neighbor, who came to check on them, where the thirteen year old had a boy hiding in the house. The neighbor removed the boy and left.
When the neighbor left, the thirteen year old sent her other three younger siblings (all under the age of five) upstairs while she stabbed the two year old. The thirty year old then carried her two year old sister outside to die. Reportedly, she cleaned up her sister's blood and changed her own bloody clothes, while family and friends looked for the two year old. The thirteen year old joined the search. Her father found his two year old daughter behind their town home.
What a mess!
I think about this family, and I can't help but wonder, didn't anybody see this girl was disturbed? Was she a willful girl, refusing to do what was asked of her? Did she resent having to take care of her younger siblings? Was she bullying her younger siblings, and everyone overlooked her mean behavior towards her younger siblings?
One thing we can all agree on is the parents hearts are heavy.
I wonder if the parents saw the problems? Were they busy, but every now and then they thought, something is not right here? Did they have a rule to ignore problems and pretend that problems don't exist?
The father stated that his younger child is in heaven now, and he has to make it to heaven if he wants to see her again. He stated that he tells his children that they have to make it to heaven for themselves. He was attempting to instill christian values. Finally, he said about the thirteen year old, "she's going to need a lot of help. She's my child too." This is the greatest testament to his christian experience, "She's my child too." What love, consideration and interest in this erring child.
I'm sure right about now he's feeling defeated, discouraged and at a loss. I'm sure he and his wife would like to turn back the hands of time, and be "there" more often. Say some things that they felt needed to be said, but was left unsaid. Encourage all of their children tolove each other, and care more for each other.
Right about now they may feel that their goals were skewed, just a little. I'm sure he and his wife are just going through the motions of life, and the guilt of being a poor parent is pressing in on them at this very moment. This guilt will continue to press in on them for years to come. Their church family will have to cover them, support them love, and nurture them back to health. A heavy blow has landed on this family.
This could be anybody's family. If you think you see problems address the poblems, don't let problems overwhelm, and take over the family. Pray for your children, watch the friends they hang around, and be aware of what's brewing under the roof of your home. Be nurturing and kind where you can.
Remember the hurting parents, and their families, pray for them, and when you can, reach out to them.
To read the story click here
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