Wednesday, January 25, 2012
What can a parent do? (teen)
Hello everybody, not that I want to dwell on the dark side of life, however all parents need to be aware. It appear that our jobs are getting more and more complicated. I recently talked to two teen boys about their relationships with their girlfriends, when one of the teen boys told me that he and his girlfriend has violence in their dating relationship.
I looked at him incredibly. He stated it as if he was stating that the weather was good. I could hardly believe my ears. The other boy piped in, "yea me too. The girls don't mind." I asked him if they were hitting girls, they both replied "no," however I have a creepy feeling that there is some physical violence in the relationships. They both stated that they are just verbally abusive.
I know that this isn't just boys being abusive to girls, I know that there are girls out there who are physically and verbally abusive to teen boys. Now what? Do we have to go on dates with teens (just joking)? : )
But seriously, this domestic violence in teen relationships is scary. Teens have been killed in these relationships.
Those teenage boys didn't think anything bad about hurting girls verbally. They thought it was funny and giggled about their behavior. They justified the nonsense by stating the girls aren't hurt because they are equally abusive.
Parents talk, talk, talk, to your teens. Both, boys and girls, need to be educated about the warning signs of domestic.
These are some other suggestions that might be helpful:
1. Teach teens that jealousy and controlling behavior isn't love.
2. Teach teens to communicate assertively and nonaggressively.
3. Be observant and available.
4. Encourage open communication about friends in general and boyfriends and girlfriends especially.
5. Pray a lot for your teens.
If you have any more suggestions or ideas please share. This is very important.
I looked at him incredibly. He stated it as if he was stating that the weather was good. I could hardly believe my ears. The other boy piped in, "yea me too. The girls don't mind." I asked him if they were hitting girls, they both replied "no," however I have a creepy feeling that there is some physical violence in the relationships. They both stated that they are just verbally abusive.
I know that this isn't just boys being abusive to girls, I know that there are girls out there who are physically and verbally abusive to teen boys. Now what? Do we have to go on dates with teens (just joking)? : )
But seriously, this domestic violence in teen relationships is scary. Teens have been killed in these relationships.
Those teenage boys didn't think anything bad about hurting girls verbally. They thought it was funny and giggled about their behavior. They justified the nonsense by stating the girls aren't hurt because they are equally abusive.
Parents talk, talk, talk, to your teens. Both, boys and girls, need to be educated about the warning signs of domestic.
These are some other suggestions that might be helpful:
1. Teach teens that jealousy and controlling behavior isn't love.
2. Teach teens to communicate assertively and nonaggressively.
3. Be observant and available.
4. Encourage open communication about friends in general and boyfriends and girlfriends especially.
5. Pray a lot for your teens.
If you have any more suggestions or ideas please share. This is very important.
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