Saturday, July 14, 2012
Schools/Prison Cells
When our children are in the middle of disaster, whether it is failed grade, drug usage, friendship problems and even criminal activity, it is easy to jum[ in and save our teens from the consequences of their errant ways. It is tempting to take control of the situation, and therefore take control of the outcome. Neither of these will be helpful to our teens.
It is hard to watch the difficult times our teens go through. We kick into protective mode. it's instinctive almost. We want to save them from the unfair failing grades, the mistaken ACT or SAT score. We want to curse the judge who gave our angelic delinquent three hundred hours in community service. But will it help?
There is a movement in the United States, the "no punishment, soft consequence movement." This movement encourages parents to step in, and save the children from any resemblance of a consequence. This movement will not step in and help your child when they drop out of school, it will not step in and help with the drug addiction that your child may pick up along the way. The movement will not visit your child in prison, or do any community service for your teen.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you supporting the teacher when the teacher gives the teen the deserved grade. Let the teen come up with what he will do to increase his school grades. Let him do it. Let him face those ACT test score. Again, this is his problem, let the teen solve this problem. In fact encourage the teen to pay for the second test. I can't say it enough. It's important to allow teens to suffer natural consequences, and yes, even give consequences, and punishments. This mamby pamby parenting style is causing the ruin of many children.
Do you think this whimpy parenting style contributes to our closing down, and tearing down schools, while we build and pump great finances into prison systems? Maybe just maybe,if we discipline and train our children when they are young, we may not need so many prison ceels when they get older.
What do you think? Feel free to share your comment.
It is hard to watch the difficult times our teens go through. We kick into protective mode. it's instinctive almost. We want to save them from the unfair failing grades, the mistaken ACT or SAT score. We want to curse the judge who gave our angelic delinquent three hundred hours in community service. But will it help?
There is a movement in the United States, the "no punishment, soft consequence movement." This movement encourages parents to step in, and save the children from any resemblance of a consequence. This movement will not step in and help your child when they drop out of school, it will not step in and help with the drug addiction that your child may pick up along the way. The movement will not visit your child in prison, or do any community service for your teen.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you supporting the teacher when the teacher gives the teen the deserved grade. Let the teen come up with what he will do to increase his school grades. Let him do it. Let him face those ACT test score. Again, this is his problem, let the teen solve this problem. In fact encourage the teen to pay for the second test. I can't say it enough. It's important to allow teens to suffer natural consequences, and yes, even give consequences, and punishments. This mamby pamby parenting style is causing the ruin of many children.
Do you think this whimpy parenting style contributes to our closing down, and tearing down schools, while we build and pump great finances into prison systems? Maybe just maybe,if we discipline and train our children when they are young, we may not need so many prison ceels when they get older.
What do you think? Feel free to share your comment.
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